What I learned this Semester

Now that the semester is coming to an end, I’ve been doing quite a bit of reflecting. I learned a lot over this semester. However, I think one of the biggest things I learned is that I am not alone in this battle with uncertainty. Pretty much everyone is stressed about their future. You think people have everything together, and then you realize they too are afraid of being uncertain.

So many times this semester, I have overheard another student ranting about being stressed and anxious about things they just don’t know the answers to. I think creating a blog about uncertainty followed me around and made me more observant of others. I learned that some of my best friends are in the same circumstance as me–not being sure if they are making the right decisions in their college journey. I learned that a friend who loves her major is fearful of the uncertainty that comes with graduating. I learned that some of my professors are still uncertain in their lives.

Overall, I am really thankful that I started Clueless in College because it forced me to face my fears of uncertainty. It made me realize that uncertainty is not a bad thing. If anything, it can motivate you to work harder to figure everything out. To be honest, I don’t think anyone is ever fully certain in their lives. I have learned that having it all figured out isn’t the most important thing in life. I learned that we cannot let the worry of uncertainty overtake us. We have to enjoy our lives and stay positive in all the chaos.

The most important thing is to enjoy life–to be happy–it’s all that matters.                          -Audrey Hepburn 

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The Uncertainty of Finals

Finals week is upon many college students, and the familiar feeling of worry is drifting through the air. Everyone is stressed and simply ready for the semester to be over. Many are scurrying to either raise or maintain their grades. I am certainly worried myself. I remain uncertain in how it will turn out.So how do we get through finals with uncertain minds? We have to remember that this present feeling of uncertainty will pass.

I know I am having to keep reminding myself that I will get through it even though it feels like I won’t. I’ve realized that this is what uncertainty does. It makes us feel like we have no control, and that we won’t get through our circumstances. But, we will. One stressful final at a time. This is a message for all those uncertain students preparing for finals. You will get through it. 

It always seems impossible until it’s done.           -Nelson Mandela

Remember this quote as you go through the week, and know that finals will be over soon. Also, here’s something to make you laugh. I am not sure who created this sassy Grinch meme, but I know it’s funny. 

grinch-meme

The Week before Thanksgiving Break

how to get through the chaos

img_2921Projects, papers and tests–oh my. It’s that terrifying week before Thanksgiving break when everything is due all at once. I have so much school work, and I feel like I’m drowning. This always seems to happen in college. This time of the semester can be especially scary for all those uncertain college students. With all the stresses of deadlines, you can lose sight of yourself completely.  As a “clueless” college student, you are not really even sure of who you are at all, but in the midst of the madness, we need to remember to focus on the positive thoughts.

William James said, “The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”

So instead of sitting there in awe at all the work you have to do, get working and believe that you will get it accomplished. It is all about your mindset! You can do it!

Changing My Major

making choices as an indecisive college student

I have decided to change my major. It was really a hard decision for me, but I think it’s the right one (or I hope it is…). I am currently a Mass Communication-Journalism major, but I will be switching to English, which is my current minor. I chose to change because English has always felt like home to me. I never really felt that way in journalism. With the journalism, always came an uneasy feeling. However, when I walk into an English class, I feel inspired. I feel like I belong there. I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t worried about changing my major. I worry that I am making a huge mistake. I worry that I am missing opportunities. I worry that I’ll never find where I belong. With changing my major, comes the fear of not knowing–uncertainty.

The whole reason I created this blog was because I was unsure about my major and was thinking about changing. However, now that I have come to the realization that I would like to change my major, I am still uncertain. I guess “clueless in college” is a constant state for me. I think my biggest fear in life is not finding my calling. I know it sounds cheesy, but it’s how I truly feel. I’ve seen so many people do incredible things in their life, and I worry that I won’t accomplish anything. In college, we’re forced to make so many decisions, and it can be completely overwhelming. However, this is just a part of life. Even though I am uncertain, I am excited about changing my major. I get giddy just thinking about it. Hopefully I am making the right choice.

“There comes a time in your life when you have to choose to turn the page, write another book or simply close it.”
Shannon L. Alder 

Don’t Let Worry Overcome You

“Why worry? If you’ve done the very best you can, worrying won’t make it any better.”   -Walt Disney

This  is one of my absolute favorite quotes. In fact, I had it as my iPhone wallpaper for the longest time because I worry so much about everything. I would look down at my phone, and be reminded to not worry so much. One thing I particularly worry about is school work. Every assignment I turn in I tend to worry about.

I specifically decided to post about this quote because I recently remembered it when I turned in an English paper that I was really worried about. I worked hard on it, and I tried to do my best, but I was still so worried. Also, worry is definitely always present in my life with me being so uncertain in college. Not really knowing what you want to do with your future is definitely worrisome.

I have learned a lot in my struggles with worry. It can be used as a tool. It can motivate you to achieve things. However, when you let worry overtake you, it can actually stop you from wanting to do anything. The worry can drown out the drive to accomplish things. This is what I have noticed anyway.

All I can say is that if you really try and work hard on something, whether it’s one assignment or figuring out where you belong in this world, you shouldn’t let worry overcome you. Take Walt Disney’s advice. Obsessive worrying doesn’t contribute to growth, it just makes things worse.

Is it Winter Break Yet?

when will this semester end…

Today, I am desperately trying to get some homework done, and I am finding myself completely unmotivated. Instead of being focused, I am getting sucked into a Christmas movie marathon on the Hallmark channel! I know its a little early to be binge-watching Christmas movies, but I am so ready for this semester to be over. I know many of fellow college students would agree that they are also ready for winter break! I still have about a month of  projects, papers, and tests that I need to get through. However, I am trying to use winter break as my motivation to try to stay focused. I keep reminding myself that soon I will be able to relax for a little while and spend time with my family. I may be uncertain of a lot of things, but I am certain that I love Christmas, and that I am ready for this semester to end. Until then I’ll be listening to a Christmas playlist and sipping on peppermint mochas to help me get through all this school work.

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winter wonderland isn’t too far…

Search through the Uncertainty

what I wish I knew as a freshman…

dont-give-up-searchSo what do you want to do after you graduate? It’s a question that every college student gets asked. I honestly dread this question because I still don’t even know if I’m in the right major.

I often think about my freshman self and how she just picked a major because she had no idea what she wanted to do. Everyone said, your first year is just general education courses; you have time to decide. Well… now I’m in my third year, and I am still undecided.

I remember how all of my friends chose majors because they knew or had an idea of what they wanted to do. When I chose, I didn’t have a clue. If I could, I would tell my freshman self to really SEARCH and to not to give up until she found the answer.

During my freshman year, I kind of gave up on the search because I was taking general education and introductory courses I  wasn’t forced inquire about my major just yet. Then, in my sophomore year, when I started taking major-focused courses, I went into panic mode. I realized that I really was unsure. Now, I continue in uncertainty.

My advice to every uncertain college student, is to search and to not give up on the journey. Take classes you are truly interested in. Talk to people in every major that you are curious about–advisors, professors, other students, etc. Talk to professionals in all kinds of careers. Just keep searching. It’s what I am trying to do.

A Trip to the Pumpkin Patch

a colorful break from uncertainty

Today I took a trip to the pumpkin patch with my mom and sister. Fall has always been my favorite season, and I realized that I haven’t been able to celebrate it that much due to all my college stress. I remain “clueless in college,” and in the midst of my confusion and uncertainty about my future, the pumpkin patch gave me a lot of happiness. It reminded me that not everything has to be so stressful and worrisome. I was able to take a step back, and think about how wonderful life is. I think F. Scott Fitzgerald illustrated fall best in The Great Gatsby when he wrote,

“Life starts all over again when it gets crisp in the fall.”   

Today was the first day it was sort of breezy outside in south Louisiana,  and it did give me hope. Even when everything seems so uncertain, it’s important to take some time to spend time with your family and enjoy all the beautiful colorful moments. For me, all those bright and grand pumpkins in a row reminded me that everything will be alright. 

 

 quote by F. Scott Fitzgerald                                              

A Song for the Uncertain

My mom has been obsessed with the band Matchbox Twenty for as long as I could remember. I grew up knowing every lyric to all of their songs. Rob Thomas, the lead singer of the group, also has a solo career that my mom has always carefully followed. His most current album is The Great Unknown. My favorite song from the album is also called “The Great Unknown.” I love this song because the lyrics speak to me as college student completely uncertain of what I want to do with my future. The chorus is my favorite.

Rob Thomas sings:

So just hold on
Driving through the valley of the great unknown
Hoping that the headlights shine on
Everyone around you has a heart of stone
But you just roll on
Just roll on

These words really impact me because it is so true in my circumstance. I am in this state of not knowing. I am hoping that somehow I will figure out where to go or that “the headlights shine on.” Lots of the time, I feel alone and like everyone else around me is really only worried about themselves because in college you honestly have to worry about yourself. When Thomas says, “Just roll on,” its a reminder that even in uncertainty you have to keep going.

Rob Thomas sings:

Remember walking when you thought you couldn’t stand
Remember what it feels like

I know that right now in your journey of uncertainty it feels like you will never make it through, but you will eventually and you will remember the feeling.

credit: This song is by Rob Thomas and from his album, The Great Unknown.

Be Prepared.

my breakdown after thinking I had lost all my computer content

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my handy flash drive

Hello all! So yesterday I had a major scare! I turned on my computer to work on two English papers that are due very soon, and all of my user content was gone from my computer! It was like my computer had completely reset itself. Obviously, I had an emotional breakdown. As a college student, I was completely overwhelmed thinking that I had lost all my school stuff. Thankfully, with the help of my dad, all of my stuff was restored. I honestly don’t even know how it all came back, but it did. In my emotional breakdown, I was however extremely thankful that I saved my papers to a flash drive. I have always saved projects to flash drives since high school and I definitely recommend that college students do the same. You never know when things could go wrong.

Also, I realized that I really need to take my own advice from my one of my past posts about remaining calm in stressful situations. I’ll admit that in this situation I freaked out because I was completely “clueless.” I had no idea how to fix it, but now I know it is super important to always be prepared (and to not freak out).